you need to be a lazier parent I think everyone’s helping their kids too much what is the expression like the best form of parenting is high attentiveness but low interference is that a thing I think that’s a thing be around be there if they need you just be like honey I’m literally having a coffee right now you can get it yourself obviously I was trying to get people’s attention by using the word lazy we all do so much now especially with the expectation of after school activities and everyone’s kids have to be making perfect grades you want to be perceived both in real life and online as like a perfect parent the other sort of Secret Sauce of it is having your kids do things on their own they’re going to make a mess when they’re putting cream cheese on a bagel or they’re going to load the dishwasher incorrectly it’s not truly lazy because you’re having to teach them to be self-sufficient little people who turn into self-sufficient adults but I totally think it’s it’s worth it full transparency during Co a lot of that self-sufficiency got ramped up because we were working remotely and they were home during the day it’s like you guys know where the snacks are if you would like to get yourself a snack get yourself a snack you know I’m on a call for the next hour and I won’t be able to help you which was tough but I think it’s been great for them I think I said something about being an attentive parent being around being there for them but actually physically keeping myself from interfering which is hard to do do in so many aspects of it you can always tell the kids whose parents are like literally doing everything for them and I want everyone to know you can be lazier honestly it probably makes your kids better not to ever criticize other parents cuz we’re all doing the best that we can I think it comes from a good place I don’t think it comes from a place of wanting to stifle a child’s Independence at all my objective was not to be critical of other parents but it was more like hey give yourself a break cuz actually it’s good for your kids you don’t have to feel bad about having them do things on their own it’s actually great for them it’ll make them better people in the long run so I think people got that which made me happy